Monday, 4 July 2016

Introducing Tallulah

You know how it is when you've had a new baby - your whole world is descended into a chaotic mess of nappies, sleepsuits and Sudacrem. Suddenly, things that seemed important - like the latest episode of the Great British Sewing Bee - don't seem so important any more, and become forgotten in favour of changing nappies and desperately scraping enough sleep to get through the day. Thank goodness for the record option. Our parents didn't have that. However did they cope?!

And in true 'baby brain' fashion, I haven't updated you on the birth of my gorgeous baby girl Tallulah Rose Narene, who is now 8 weeks old. We agonised over the name; I wanted Mabel, but my other half was firmly against it. Eventually, with the help of my mum and sister (at 11:30pm at night as I bounced on a birthing ball, 99% per cent certain that things were starting) we narrowed it down to two that we both liked, and since I had chosen Pearl, my other half got the final say. For the record, the other name was Delilah. Rose is in honour of the name that the hubby really wanted, and Narene is after my grandmother, whose name was Noreen (which is apparently meant to be pronounced Narene, hence the spelling change).

And here she is...

Yes, she does have a lot of hair, doesn't she? And lots of lovely blonde locks, just like me! But no I didn't have indigestion / heartburn / any other condition to hint that she might come out with such a mop on her head. 

Myself as a baby, and Tallulah
Unfortunately, try as I might to have Tallulah naturally, my body refused to cooperate again. It wasn't the pre-eclampsia this time, no; in fact, my blood pressure was fine all the way through and Little T was 5 days late. No, this time it was that bloody cervix again. It refused to budge one centimetre even after horribly painful contractions over 9 hours. Even the epidural did barely anything to ease the pain; it was nothing like those women on Once Born Every Minute who have an epidural and appear to be in very little pain. I could still feel pretty much everything; the only thing it took off was the gentler pain either side of the contraction, the feeling that comes when you know that contraction is on its way.  
So yes, it was another c-section for me, and though I feel sad about it, at least it was my choice this time. I also had to go completely under the anaesthetic because I still had feeling there, so it was pretty much an epic fail the whole way.

But it is what it is; I can't change it now. And I wouldn't anyway, because I have two gorgeous, glorious girls and the circumstances under which they came to me are part of who they are. As Shakespeare would say, they are not "of woman born", and that's fine with me.

Pearl, who is now 3 and a half, absolutely adores her little sister. People say that older children get naughty when new siblings come along, but though Pearl has been pushing boundaries, this has been part of her growing up and nothing to do with the arrival of Tallulah. She has been a wonderful big sister.

And of course, the breastfeeding journey continues. I've been lucky enough for Tallulah to establish herself quite easily, and she loves her yummy mummy milk! I've already captured on camera several public breastfeeding moments and will be sharing them over the coming weeks / months in an effort to normalise breastfeeding and educate people on the Equality Act 2010. But most importantly to ensure that other mothers don't feel that breastfeeding has to come at the expense of a social life or hobbies. You CAN go to the cinema. You CAN go swimming. You CAN go shopping. And you can do all of these things and breastfeed wherever your baby needs to. No need to shut yourself away in a toilet or let your baby scream while you attempt to find your nearest Mothercare (though their feeding rooms are pretty awesome). As Nike says - just do it!

Thursday, 29 October 2015

Baby Number 2 is on the way!

Hey folks! It's been a while... work has been crazy - I'm up to full time now - and to be honest, since Pearl is now 3 years old and hasn't breastfed since she was a year, I didn't have an awful lot to write, and though I promised to bring you stories from those around me, that didn't pan out either!

But I return to you now with some extra special news - baby number 2 is on the way! Yes, I am currently 13 weeks pregnant with our second baby. Pearl is going to be a big sister, and she's adamant that it's a girl; if it isn't, then she's going to use her "magic powers" to "turn it into a girl". I've told her that that isn't quite how the world works, but thus far she remains unconvinced.

Anyway, I will love you and leave you with our pregnancy announcement picture... not perfect, but with so many excellent ideas out there it was difficult to come up with something original.

Have a great day!

Saturday, 28 February 2015

New Facebook page

Just a quick note that the Yummy Mummy's Breastfeeding Blog has a new Facebook page.

The last page, which had thousands of followers and regular activity, has mysteriously vanished into the depths of the internet... which is why the new one is but a baby!

Please do go over and like it. As it grows back to what it once was, you'll find updates, news, useful products, competitions and - of course - breastfeeding photos!

There'll be more articles on the blog soon, too.


Friday, 27 September 2013

Photo #20: Picnic in the park

Taken back in May, this photo shows me nursing Pearl at 8 months old in a park in Norwich one particularly warm day. At the time I was nearing the end of my maternity leave and was preoccupied with my return to work to post this picture, so I share it with you now instead. I think it's quite a pretty one.

Saturday, 14 September 2013

The Top 5 Places Where Breastfeeding is Forbidden

This morning I came across this article on social networking and journal site The Stir, where Mary Fischer details the top 5 places where she feels mothers should either avoid nursing or cover up whilst doing so. The main problems seem to be centred on other people's comfort; she doesn't like the idea of her young son seeing breasts, she doesn't like the idea of people who are eating seeing breasts, and she doesn't like the idea of pervy men seeing breasts. She even thinks that God shouldn't see breasts, and he's the one who created them.

(Interestingly, upon reading this article I came across a link to another journalistic treat from The Stir, entitled "Mom kicked out of pool for breastfeeding and she deserved it", which in turn contains a link to another article entitled "10 reasons I am dreading nursing my new baby". Hmm.)

So let's have a look at this top 5, shall we?

Number 1 - In the swimming pool
I admit, when I first heard the story of Stephanie Wilby and how she was ordered to get out of the pool to breastfeed her baby, I had some understanding of how other swimmers may have felt. Not about being exposed to breasts, but of the leaking of breast milk into the water. But then, after a post on my Facebook page from one of my followers (hm, that sounds a bit sinister, doesn't it?) I changed my opinion and ended up completely defending the woman on Channel 5's The Wright Stuff. After all, with all the babies and children - and even adults - who urinate in the pool, what harm does a little breast milk do? Babies find it much more difficult to keep warm than adults, so it is quite understandable when a mother does not wish to leave the warmth of the water to breastfeed her child. If nothing else it is a breach of her human rights to ask her to move, as the lifeguard did.

Number 2 - On a plane
Planes are full of perverts. Didn't you know that?

Number 3 - Kids' sporting events
Because children are also perverts, apparently.

Number 4 - Church
Uh... oops. Sorry God.

(Pearl's Christening, February 2013)

Number 4 - Restaurants
Oh, um... well, uh... this is awkward.

Carluccio's, Norwich

Gregg's bakers, Norwich

The Lamb Inn, Norwich

Jarrold's café, Norwich

Subway, Great Yarmouth

Sainsbury's café, Norwich

Bella Italia, Norwich

A café in Great Yarmouth

The Range café, Norwich

Monday, 13 May 2013

Photo #19: Walking in King's Lynn

 Sometimes you don't have much time on your hands. You might be in a rush to get to the bank before it closes, you might be late for a meeting because little one was being a bit uncooperative, or perhaps you need to get back to the car before your parking ticket expires?

As far as I can see, there doesn't seem to be much reason to allow breastfeeding to get in the way of your normal life. Of course, I enjoy taking my time and sitting in a café whilst I breastfeed - it gives me an excuse to buy cake! - but why not nurse on the move if you don't have the luxury of time? Pearl was happy to do so and she's still small enough for me to carry with ease, so that's exactly what I did whilst shopping in King's Lynn.

Monday, 6 May 2013

Review: Mamalicious Short-Sleeve Maternity & Nursing Top

Not so long ago a lovely lady named Lynn Hogg contacted me asking me to review some nursing wear from her range at the More 4 Mums website, and I was very happy to oblige! It's so hard to find decent nursing wear - almost nowhere on the high street sells it, so I have been much more successful buying online. 

The top I chose to sport and review was the Mamalicious Short-Sleeve Maternity & Nursing Top.

The top comes in a variety of lovely bright, summery colours, including this lovely yellow and a nice coral. The fabric is soft and kind on the skin, and at £14.99 you can't complain about price! One of the best things about this nursing top is that it doesn't look like a nursing top - its discreetness means it could just as easily be an every day item of clothing from any high street store. 

The nursing access is easy to get to and comfortable to use. The jersey fabric means that your shapely, womanly figure is perfectly framed, yet whereas this means you could proudly show off your bump whilst pregnant, I wouldn't recommend this top for nursing mums who are struggling to get rid of the dreaded baby bulge unless you buy 2 or 3 sizes above what you would normally get. Also consider your bust size - as a 32G I struggled to keep the seam below my breasts, where it is meant to sit, but anyone smaller than that should be fine. 

I sometimes find that tops are bit too short for me - I don't think I have a particularly long body, but a lot of tops are just never long enough for my liking; they ride up and reveal things that should remain hidden! However, this was not one of my worries when wearing this top. Probably because it doubles up as maternity wear, it's nice and long to cover up anything you would prefer to hide!

All in all, well worth the money.